Garden of Dandelions

A week from today marks 10 months.

10 months since I found out I had cancer.

But I'm not writing to talk about next week.

I'm writing to talk about today.

Because today was my last day of scheduled treatment.

My final radiation.

I unexpectedly finished a week early because I didn't need the added boost they had factored in initially. So it hasn't really had time to sink in yet.

I made it. We made it. Because so many of you have been right there with me. Cheering me on, praying for me, sending messages of encouragement. And I'm so grateful for each and every one.

I had radiation to my left side which meant I needed to move my heart and lungs down and out of position of the beam. To do so, I had to hold my breath each time the beam was turned on. I'd hear a voice come over the intercom and say, "Take a breath and hold it..."

Which, incidentally, has contributed to me developing the lung capacity to rival Michael Phelps. If I let my breath out while the beam was still on, it would shut the whole machine off. So I counted, daydreamed, and tried not to think about turning blue until they came back over the intercom saying, "You can breathe". They radiated 4 spots each time. My midline, left side, and 2 spots targeting the lymph nodes by my clavicle. Those last two went all the way through me and toasted the back of my shoulder like a marshmallow.

I'm sporting 6 pretty cool tattoos. If tiny little black dots are considered "cool" these days. Reese wants me to connect them all together now into some huge fancy illustration covering my torso. Too many dot to dot books as a child.

To prove I was me, I had to stop at the door each time, show them my hospital bracelet, and recite, "Kristen Hollaway. 8-1-76. Left (the side they were treating)". Once I was in the room, they displayed a picture of me from my first day and asked, "Is that you?". Seriously. If someone wanted to take my place that badly, get burnt to a crisp and have all the energy sucked out of them causing them to crawl into bed right after work some days, they're off their rocker.

My modesty flew out the window long about my second or third doctor's appointment last Spring. Since KU is a teaching hospital, there was always a student or new doctor getting trained by one of mine. And I was asked time and time again if it was ok if they sat in on my examination. "Sure, no problem," I'd say, wanting to add, "Anyone else out in the hallway wanna come take a peek? Housekeeping? Maintenance? Bring them all in!" This from the middle school girl who used to change into and out of her gym clothes faster than Clark Kent could slap on a cape.

For radiation, I had to change into my gown then traipse back out into the little waiting area, pretending like it wasn't awkward at all as I tried to hold the back closed and slither into a seat next to fully clothed family members waiting for their loved ones. At least I made it out there with it on each time. Once I was in such a hurry to get to work afterward, I stripped off all my top clothing, adjusted my beanie, and headed for the door, thankfully realizing a half second before I opened it that something was missing!

So I relinquish my standing 10am time slot. And hate that there will certainly be another person ready to fill it. I wish them well. I hope they're nice to sweet "B", my little old man friend I won't be seeing anymore and who's only halfway done with his treatment.

This last month has probably been the hardest for me. I haven't felt inspiring. Or amazing. Or anything of the sort. I've just felt off. Not a fun place to be. Stuck inside your own mind, going through the motions. But I'm plugging along and coming around. And growing the softest little baby hair you ever did feel. "You almost have enough for bedhead," David pointed out.

I snapped this one day while the person before me finished up. Probably sweet "B".

Beam on.

Beam- shine brightly.

I can do this. A rough chapter has finished. But my story isn't over yet. I feel more like a snuffed out candle at the moment. But I'll shine again. Perhaps for someone else going through this.

Beam on.

Next up: I'll be on an oral med for 5 years. And will part ways with all of these.

Oh, and I'll have my exchange surgery this Summer where they'll switch out these blasted tissue expanders for what will most likely be the smallest implants my plastic surgeon has ever created. He confirms with me at each appointment, "And you're sure this is the size you want to be?" I may mess with him next time and say, "Actually, no. Now that I think about it, can you take some of this out and make me a little bit smaller?"

My breast surgeon doesn't want to miss out on our little reunion so she'll be there also to take out more tissue on my right side. Some of my cancer cells decided to party too close to the edge of what she took out in June. So we need to make sure none of those little suckers slipped through.

So what did I do to celebrate my last treatment?

I picked Drue up from school for an orthodontist appointment. Because life goes on. And that's a-ok by me. I'm certainly ready to get back to being an ordinary Mom doing ordinary Mom things.

This was the garden outside the cancer center on my first day of chemo.

And here it is on my last day of radiation.

A different season for sure. Each season has its own challenges. But also its own beauty.

I feel like I've been holding my breath since that March 22nd phone call.

It felt so good to hear them say at the end of my treatment today, "You can breathe..."